Question of the month #2

Kids in the Capital is all about parents in Ottawa helping each other out by sharing tips and advice. Each month we ask a parenting question and we want to hear all the gems of advice you have to share. Just leave your answers in the comments! And if you have a question you’d like to see in a future question, leave it in the comments too!

Question of the month 2:

The first few months of parenthood are some of the hardest.  For first time parents, it’s the unknown.  For second timers, it’s learning how to deal with a newborn while still dealing with the older kid(s). There’s no way to make it easier, but we’ve all come up with tricks to make things a bit easier.  Here’s your chance to share them with others!

What advice/tips/tricks/reassurances would you give to parents of a newborn? What do you wish you had been told as a new parent?

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12 responses to “Question of the month #2

  1. I think I could write a novel on this, but I will restrain myself until more people have responded 🙂

    Instead I start with these two things

    1) Hushabye babies is amazing. I wrote about it here before https://kidsinthecapital.wordpress.com/2010/04/05/hush-a-bye-babies/. It’s worth every penny just for the la la song. And the lovely people you meet is just what a new mom/parent needs. Check it out!

    2) I did not get any great sleepers. We went on a lot of drives to get babies to sleep – but when going for a drive wasn’t an option white noise worked well. REALLY loud white noise. We used my hairdryer (set on cold) more to help babies sleep than I ever have on my hair. So if you’re ever desperate to get a fussy baby to sleep, turn on your hairdryer and see if it helps. I’m told vacuums, dryers, running showers and bathroom fans all can have a similar effect.

  2. If you are tired and things need to get done and the baby is sleeping, take a nap too. Don’t be shy to ask friends and family for help doing things so you can get some rest.

    Remember that as difficult as this time is, it doesn’t last forever so when your kid is up screaming at 3 am, have compassion and be there for him/her without resentment. You only have so much time to hold and soothe them before they are off smoking in an alleyway somewhere.

    • Sometimes compassion is so hard to have! Sometimes it is still so hard to have! But compassion and patience are the things I have had to learn the most.

  3. LOL Tiana, so true, so true!

    My advice is have a sense of humour when you can :). Poo blowouts can be fun, right? right? hmmm ok maybe not.

    Don’t be afraid to ask for help, from your friends, family and especially your spouse. I know this sounds silly but often first time moms think they can do it all and don’t ask their spouse for help. I know, I was one of those moms! Now with 3 kids under my belt my spouse is never off the hook 🙂

  4. Kate

    A wrap carrier like the Moby Wrap is amazing for calming fussy newborns. My little girl was a very fussy baby and the wrap was one of the only ways to calm her down.

    Also, bouncing on an exercise/yoga ball while holding the baby (or while baby is in the wrap) is a great way to soothe little ones to sleep.

    • I had a stretchy wrap and loved in the first months too.

      And we bounced, oh we bounced, on exercise balls. Just be careful, it’s hard on your back. It is however, magic!

  5. Dawn

    My tips are more about fostering a good relationship between an older child and the newborn.
    1) Keep telling the older child how much the newborn loves him/her. It helps with that bond.
    2) To avoid having the older child resent the baby, because the older child always has to wait while you finish feeding or changing the little one, sometimes make the baby wait (only a minute or two). Make it vocal, for the older one’s benefit, since the newborn doesn’t know what you’re saying anyway. “Sorry Baby. I’m busy with your big sister. I’ll come change you as soon as I finish making Big Sister’s lunch.” That way the older child doesn’t feel like he/she is the only one who has to wait sometimes.

    • Teresa

      I agree. We really try to emphasize to our daughter how much her baby brother loves her. He lights up when she’s around, so we say things like, “Look at how happy he is now!” And somewhere along the line, she decided that it’s her special job to make him smile if he’s fussy, so she’ll dance or make a funny face. Works every time.

      And we make sure to tell Jr. that he has to wait his turn sometimes or that he can’t take bath toys away from his sister (just like she can’t take them from him). Our daughter is always paying attention, even when it doesn’t seem like it, so we try to show her that there is equality, as best we can ensure it.

  6. 1. Breastfeeding is a learned activity so it’ll hurt at first but it’ll stop hurting in about 3 weeks.
    2. Follow your instincts and don’t do something just because your doctor recommends it.
    3. Get a laptop, and a comfy chair because you are going to be sitting there a lot. I’m still waiting for someone to invent the one handed keyboard.

  7. Another question of the month: where can a stylish toddler/small bed be found?

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